This is a crazy time. This is an uncertain time. As a little girl, we almost all dream of our wedding day. Whether it is romantic, boho, by the beach, you name it, we’ve dreamed it. Spring and Summer are some of the most popular seasons for weddings (especially in Texas), so I know there are quite a few of you who are uncertain, scared, and probably straight up MAD about what is going on in the world.
While all of us are deeply affected by what is going on in the world right now, there is something just so heartbreaking about being a Bride right now. All that planning, dreaming, and working is now being postponed. While we all are having to adjust and alter our lives and work situations, you brides are holding a special place in my heart. Especially just getting married myself, I know how devastating this season must be.
A Note to Brides During COVID-19
Weddings are such a special time. We dream about our wedding from the time when we were a little girl. You meet your dream man and then instantly start dreaming of what your wedding will look like. Summer or fall? Peonies or roses? Outdoor ceremony or Indoor? Black tie or Sunday casual? There are so many options and choices to consider. Never in our wildest dreams did we think a disease would cause the entire world to basically shut down and weddings across the United States to be put on hold.
So, what do you do? One option is to keep your wedding date, and just postpone the ceremony. Get married in a courthouse with your close family and spouse. Honestly, there is something so romantic about this. And, Carrie Bradshaw did it, so it’s totally adorable, right?! I know from my wedding, while I loved absolutely everything about it, it was a lot going on and it almost didn’t feel real. I never was able to truly sit and stare at my husband…just the two of us!
Another option is to postpone your entire wedding. There is so much uncertainty about WHEN this will all be over…and exactly when social distancing will be over. My best advice when choosing a new date is to pray about it and be safe rather than sorry. But how do you know what to do?
While you get on social media, you might be seeing your friends making funny TikTok videos about social distancing, memes about people trying to work from home, or any other lighthearted, witty things someone wants to post on instagram. does anyone truly grasps what you are going through?You might even feel petty or vain for worrying so much about your wedding. People are probably trying to encourage you by saying to “look at the bigger picture” or “find the silver lining”, but I want to come on here and tell you that it is okay to be feeling this way. It is okay to be freaking UPSET that your dream wedding is in limbo. It is okay to cry yourself to sleep one night begging God to show you the reason why, how, and when.
I know this time is hard. I honestly cannot imagine what you are going through. The stress of a wedding is enough, let alone re-planning everything because of a virus. BUT, know this. You and your fiancΓ© are demonstrating what true marriage looks like. Putting the other first. Staying together through the tough times. Practicing patience, resilience, and strength through a tough and uncertain time. You both get to demonstrate God’s love for His people by loving your family and friends well (from a distance). By loving your soon to be spouse well. Life has a funny way of ALWAYS throwing us curveballs, and the fact that you and your fiancΓ© get to experience something so crazy before even getting married is a beautiful picture of marriage. This kind of love, the love in the Bible, is what will persevere. The love that isn’t failing.
Know that you are not alone in this season. Know that your family and friends all love and support you. You are having to make BIG decisions that will keep your friends and family safe. You and your fiancΓ© will come out of this stronger together. Know that not even a pandemic can stop you two from being together! YOU are a hero that no one really talks about. So thank you.
