Who else loves wearing red?! I used to not be a fan at all….. but all of a sudden I am just living in it! This romper is so fun and perfect for summer. Do y’all recognize it?? I definitely had the SAME ONE in yellow last year when I went to Disney World. If you remember, you are an AMAZING reader, hah!
I snagged this romper from Landry Kate. It is currently sold out, but we always get these super cute styles in. I’m linking two from the SAME vendor and they are the SAME style, just a different pattern. Clearly I like this style…I have two of the same romper just different colors! Romper here & under $50. 
We all know how much I love this Brahmin bag. If you want one but you are scared of the price ($245), let me just tell you, it is worth every penny. Most designer bags average from $300-500, and that is not even high-end designers. Those go for over $1000!!! This bag is such great quality, I can put a ton inside, different, and will go with so many outfits in every season. I love this bag probably too much!
Brahmin is also an excellent brand. I have two Brahmin bags and I have never been disappointed or dissatisfied from them. They are durable, which is great for someone who tends to just throw things inside…. lol! Shop Brahmin bags here.
Insecurities & Self- Love
Now, for the reason we all probably hopped on over to this post; Insecurities and Self Love. I know that so many people highlight this and talk about it on social media. I thought for sure that with this new wave of self love and all that jazz that my own insecurities and things I don’t love about myself would just go away. I thought that if this person feels that way but doesn’t care anymore and can overcome that feeling, then I should too. It should be just as easy as they described in their own post! Right?!
Wrong. So, very wrong. If you deal with insecurities, you KNOW there is no quick-fix remedy. Often times, the negative things we tell ourselves (or others tell us) for years have a larger effect on our souls than some believe they can. Even if you think you overcome this insecurity by “not caring” about it anymore, if your thoughts still stray and meditate on that insecurity (just no one knows you’re thinking it), they still have power.
Something I have been working on for YEARS has been overcoming these insecurities I’ve build up and walls I can’t break down. There are SO many examples I could use…but I’ll just start with an easy one..haha
Junior Year of Hight School: Before this incident, I had absolutely NO qualms about speaking. Its not that I was confident in my speaking abilities, its that I had no reason to believe I shouldn’t be. I gave no thought to it, I just did it. Then, I went on a date with this guy that was a year older than me. He seemed so cool and I just wanted to match that “coolness”. After a seemingly great date, the whole night was ruined when he started making fun of how I said certain words. “Oh, you say that weird”, then proceeded to mock me. Ouch. He would later wonder why I never called him back.
So, after that date, I then started to micro analyze how I said words. Am I wrong? Just from a different part of the country? Was HE wrong? Is there such thing as being “right”? I got SO self-conscious of how I spoke, where before he pointed out this “flaw”, I never paid any attention to it. I didn’t even know it existed.
It took me YEARS after starting my blog to finally start speaking to the camera, and even now I just hate it. I loved following bloggers and listening to their video content, but I just thought I could never compare to them. I sounded weird, at least that is what that guy told me. After wanting to but living in fear for SO long, I finally started making video content. SUPER scary, but I soon realized it wasn’t all that bad. So what if people thought my voice was funny? Or I said words weird? After all, that’s how God designed me right? Why would I hate the very thing God designed?
Long story short, I still deal with this insecurity. To some it might sound SO funny, because you might hear me and think I sound perfectly normal. But, what I’ve discovered is that we all deal with insecurities. While a certain insecurity may seem SMALL to you/outsiders, it is really big to the person dealing with it. To this day I say things wrong…. and whenever it is pointed out, a huge piece of me just runs right back to that date junior year of high school and I feel lousy, dumb, and embarrassed.
I think when it comes to dealing with insecurities, there is no overnight fix. You can’t just “stop thinking about it” and it will go away. It takes time, meditation, trust, and awareness of YOURSELF.
So, how do I deal with my insecurities and promote self-love?
- Clean up your social media: That’s right….unfollow people who make you feel worse about yourself. I try to make my social media feeds (I have 4 accounts!!) full of people that INSPIRE me and motivate me. People who I am friends with and genuinely care about. If every time someone posts something you feel worse about yourself, why are you following that person?
- Make a list of things you love about yourself
- Read a FUN book: this allows me to escape to a different reality and get out of my own head (my favorite book series and author).
- Clean your space: I always feel immensely better when I clean my room and have a candle on. There is something so calming about that.
- Surround yourself with POSITIVE people who love YOU for YOU. Hanging out with someone who constantly points out your flaws will only highlight them more. Instead, pick a tribe that encourages you, loves you, and doesn’t even notice your “flaws”. Think about your absolute BEST friend. Do they have flaws that you think should change or do you love them exactly as they are?
Anyone else deal with insecurities? It is always funny how they can manifest. Like my example, it is something so small and funny, yet it is something I STILL hold on to. Over 7 years later. Oh, to be a kid again where all I cared about was playing with Barbies and trading Mighty Beanz.
How do you overcome insecurities and practice self love?
